tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post21371491364489243..comments2024-03-25T10:33:52.277-04:00Comments on Miss Magnolia: I have something else to say.Ashlyn Stallingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03831748667772173399noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-85382883880966013622011-11-09T19:20:01.812-05:002011-11-09T19:20:01.812-05:00I MISS YOU! COME BACCCKKKK! I sure wish you'd ...I MISS YOU! COME BACCCKKKK! I sure wish you'd come back to the blogging world...it's just not the same without you :)Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11921264796115903641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-55336398673693275972011-11-07T22:21:26.889-05:002011-11-07T22:21:26.889-05:00I just completely fell in love with your blog. SO ...I just completely fell in love with your blog. SO glad I came across it! I am an ADPi alum and completely agree with all of your opinions. Nice work.. I'm proud you are representing our organization. <br /><br />littlethingshpw.blogspot.comHaleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09600219405695329910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-46744524230674128342011-10-18T16:25:44.037-04:002011-10-18T16:25:44.037-04:00Whatever your feelings, please remember that as an...Whatever your feelings, please remember that as an employee of Alpha Delta Pi, you speak for the whole organization.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-31376373909617097312011-10-02T16:23:16.635-04:002011-10-02T16:23:16.635-04:00I've been texted 4 or 5 times about your posti...I've been texted 4 or 5 times about your posting - so clearly you struck a nerve, which means you have the courage of your convictions and a point of view.<br /><br />What struck my friends and I as interesting was your tone of voice in this entry. Faith is very hard to evaluate, and the voices of more than 200,000 Alpha Delta Pi's, and more than 4 million sorority women in all affiliations can never be supported or affirmed in a blog post. But it's sad that you felt the need to say that the "holiday card" verses a "Christmas Card" would make you frustrated. "Yeah whatever, I dunno everyone's creed."<br /><br />Good. Let's start there. Take a peek at the creeds. They are all callings, and call out to a diverse group of young women. The call does not often come from Christ. It comes from the Founders.<br />"Deigning to culture" did some great things for our organizations. It made us a more diverse, reflective, supportive and inclusive collection of women.<br /><br />I would ask you to evaluate a couple of things, because you post in a public forum, by choice, and you clearly are comfortable with differing opinions. <br /><br />This posting assumes a lot. "But why aren't we really abiding by what our Creeds, our GOD, demands of us?" Well, for most organizations, the ritual is not faith based, but faith affirming. That is by design. Yours is rooted in Christian principles, but mine isn't, and to to assume "our creeds" demand anything faith based is just, well, kind of a reach. I am a Christian woman, and a reflective person, and I know you are too.<br /><br />And I believe that "political correctness" and "being inclusive of other people's thoughts and feelings" are faith affirming when done right. Inclusiveness got us away from racially divisive and culturally divisive and illegal practices. That "inclusiveness" makes us relevant. That "inclusiveness" means I can look at a sister who is not in the same faith-place as myself and not judge her. When we were NOT inclusive, we were unwilling to accept women of color, Catholics, and Jews into our organizations. (That happened very recently - for decades.) We closed the door on the very practice of diverse faith. And that is a sad, sad thing. <br /><br />There are wonderful organizations that offer more directed, transparent outlets for Christians, Jews, etc. to serve fraternities and sororities under the auspices of faith. Greek IV is one.<br /><br />I encourage you to consider that your belief in the needs of Alpha Delta Pi are valuable and come from a place of love, and the conversations that come from inclusiveness are developmental and valuable. You seem to step over inclusiveness and cast it aside like a bump on the "politically correct highway."<br /><br />I know you are transparent about your beliefs, and that has always been something my friends respond to. But think about what Alpha Delta Pi would be like without that consideration for women not like yourself. Would it be as strong? As appealing? As ephemeral and "forever?"<br /><br />I loved the part about global service and relevance, and agree - I just wish the tone didn't equate "political correctness" - doing something just to seem kind and open, with what our organizations are choosing to do, which is BE kind and open. I hope things get better for you - and I appreciate you reading this. <br /><br />Phil 4: 6-9,"...whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."<br /><br />Inclusiveness, to me, is a noble thing. As is sorority, when done right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-58961036287795543612011-09-29T16:42:16.848-04:002011-09-29T16:42:16.848-04:00I agree, but it's definitely a tough subject b...I agree, but it's definitely a tough subject because I can imagine it would be difficult for sisters whose faith is different. I think the important thing is owning and discovering your faith and being strong in it, like you are. I really admire that about you! I'm a brand new Alpha at Queens University of Charlotte, and I really have enjoyed looking through your blog!Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13617171733165890223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-14779619826800292692011-09-29T09:16:53.736-04:002011-09-29T09:16:53.736-04:00Excellent post, Ashlyn. I am very proud that befo...Excellent post, Ashlyn. I am very proud that before I was given a pledge pin, I was asked 'Do you believe in God?'. It's a practice that still goes on today - and is the first and most important part of the exclusivity of being a part of the organization. <br /><br />I am with you, though - I do wish it trickled down and affected other facets of the organization.JRShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08976047323631782367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-39688986011188911172011-09-28T19:58:42.480-04:002011-09-28T19:58:42.480-04:00Love this Ashlyn. I totally agree. This is what ...Love this Ashlyn. I totally agree. This is what I am trying to do as I speak to these chapters about ALL four of the Diamond points. I have a story to tell, not because it is mine or because I am anything special but because it is HIS story and ADPi plays a part of that. 150 years ago women were still women, wanting stories of being rescued, redeemed and being recognized. We have the ultimate answer and an amazing venue to share, we just have to trust that Gos will honor it when we do.Tracy Carsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04132810030437913691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-54739094608840955532011-09-28T15:07:58.890-04:002011-09-28T15:07:58.890-04:00I'm the National Chaplain for my fraternity an...I'm the National Chaplain for my fraternity and I share your sentiments. The struggles we have as organizations stem directly from the departure from our ideals. At a time when we are under attack, we need to realize that this is the only way we can save ourselves.<br /><br />Whenever I meet with our undergrads, I make it a point to let them know where we came from why our ritual and creed say what they do. It always gives my hope when I see just how receptive they are to our Christian foundation as I make it clear what our founders intended. <br /><br />I keep reminding myself that the change starts at the root of the organization, by making an impact on the student leaders in the local chapters. I'd love to make a sweeping change but I know that this is something that can't be legislated.<br /><br />Keep up the fight, you are not in it alone.Toddhttp://twitter.com/aubietoddnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-9971247021747681152011-09-28T13:42:07.419-04:002011-09-28T13:42:07.419-04:00As an ADPI and a newer beleiver in Christ I am PRO...As an ADPI and a newer beleiver in Christ I am PROUD of reading this. I am proud there are sorority women out there who are not afraid of our values! I remember being in college at a very Jewish school.. where Adpi happened to be 50/50.. and it was a battle all the time... where we made our values "optional".. since when did God make him as our #1 priority and the PURPOSE of our life.. optional? he didn't.. and he also didn't call us to separate our lives into secular vs. spiritual.. that's simply an American influence gone too far. Amen to you for posting this, and for following the holy spirit on decisions of your own.. blog or not.. I'll keep readin!<br /><br />loyally,Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-87994599212383950972011-09-28T11:55:46.475-04:002011-09-28T11:55:46.475-04:00Ashlyn,
You are such an inspiration and a wise bey...Ashlyn,<br />You are such an inspiration and a wise beyond your years kinda gal. I'm a few years older than you, but after finding your blog and following it, I have looked up to you and learned a little about what kind of person I want to be and the relationship I want to have with Christ. You were a catalyst in my spirituality and I appreciate that so much. I'm sure strangers reading your blog are scary, but I used to love reading your updates with your precious words about the God you know and love so well. Please go back to that! You're a wonderful example and a light for the world. Great post today.Patricianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-74546889662224461482011-09-28T11:55:44.631-04:002011-09-28T11:55:44.631-04:00I'll never forget during initiation week when ...I'll never forget during initiation week when I had my meeting with my chapter's president (a woman who I admired- and still admire- so much) to go through all of the bylaws and paperwork associated with being a member. She came to the part in our bylaws about our Christian foundations and before she went through it she prefaced it with "Now, this part talks about God and Christianity, but I want you to know that while it was a part of our sorority at the beginning, we are completely accepting of non-Christian views and would never try to push religion on any of our sisters." It struck me as so odd, almost like she was embarrassed of it and didn't want anyone to think she was "pushing religion" on them by asking them to adhere to a moral code that happened to be laid out in the Bible. I wish I had said something to her then, we need more people like you who can stand up and demand our organizations get back to our roots!Megannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-88920995993986840072011-09-28T09:22:56.552-04:002011-09-28T09:22:56.552-04:00Great stuff Ashlyn! I was never greek but many fr...Great stuff Ashlyn! I was never greek but many friends were. Quite a few of them were ADPi's as well.<br /><br />One of them ended up giving me great advice one day. She shared with me Psalm 15. I still have it printed out with a note I wrote that says, "Be this man."<br /><br />In light of what is happening at Vandy right now, the colleges in the US could really use Greek life standing up for Christ.The Trot Linehttp://setthetrotline.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-83939667799109233632011-09-28T09:21:17.940-04:002011-09-28T09:21:17.940-04:00Love this. "Do not conform to the pattern of ...Love this. "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind." Love serving with you and being part of your family at PCC :)Chelsea Gillilandnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6928307826796401852.post-50763459051765562752011-09-28T09:01:57.910-04:002011-09-28T09:01:57.910-04:00This is such a great post, Ashlyn! So respect you ...This is such a great post, Ashlyn! So respect you for posting it. I wasn't in a sorority so can't relate on a personal level, but in general as a woman in Christ, shouldn't we all be "...exemplifying the highest ideals of Christian womanhood."Caroline Fontenothttp://backdownsouth.comnoreply@blogger.com